How do I overcome a social anxiety about going to college?
I haven’t got into college yet because of my fear of anxiety around my peers. All through grade school I have been teased, ridiculed, and talked about. It’s challenging to make friends/ or work with people because people are so clickish. I tend to get nervous around others because I fear of being judged like I did in grade school. I want to go to school and this is the only thing that is holding me back. Any solutions?
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Hi Jermaine! Yes, overcoming the "fear" of what others have said or what they will say about you is so hard to do.
When I was growing up, I used to faint at the sight of blood. They used to give injections at school (i.e. MMR, TB, etc…) & it NEVER failed, on shot day, while my parents would always write a note for me that I didn’t have to take the shots, I would still have panic attacks & actually faint.
Every time, it would happen in front of the entire class. And kids being kids would be so cruel to me about it. I always felt humiliated & isolated by something that I couldn’t control. So I understand totally what you mean when you say that it’s difficult to make friends & trust people. Once you’ve been singled out by your peers, it is very damaging.
However… the good news is that when you enter college, you have an amazing opportunity to start off with a clean slate. You get to leave all of the history behind & start over fresh, without anyone remembering what has been said about you previously.
When I got out of school, I really blossomed. Didn’t feel that I had to shift through all of those mean, nasty & hurtful words. So I know that this will be true for you. I actually really enjoy being around others now & have a ton of friends, a lot of which tell me that I’m very empathetic. (Of course continually being the brunt of the joke tends to make you much more aware of others feelings.)
So, my recommendation to you? Look at college as a fresh start, a clean slate. You get to start all over building your self-confidence & really discovering who are & what your interests are. This is when you will blossom & really come into who are you are.
If you happen to need any further pushing, you might check out the resource below, as it could help you even now, before you head off & away into your future. Nothing like getting started now, eh?
when going to a respectable college, its a very different atmosphere. people pay to go to class.you rarely see anything you normally see in a public school. this is my second year in college in NYC and i feel that people on campus are even nicer than people just anywhere.
just try to empty your mind when driving there, and walking in. just do it.
if that don’t work, take the bus to college and smoke dope.
Its much easier making friends for the first time in college. Everyone is (probably) in the same boat as you, so everyone has to be friendly. If you want to find really good friends, get involved in a group or activity you are interested in, like ultimate frisby leagues, or Amnesty International, etc.